Irvine Matchmakers | Top 8 Signs It's a One-Sided Relationship

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In the perfect world, you and your partner would love each other equally. But there’s always the possibility that one person will love the other more. If you’re in a relationship where you’re doing most of the work, if not all of it, then you’re technically just dating yourself.

Today, our Irvine matchmakers will show you the telltale warning signs you’re in a lopsided relationship. If you’re doing all the work, it’s time to get out.

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1. You’re the one doing all the work.

When someone cares about the relationship, they’ll put in the work to show that they care. They will plan elaborate dates, open car doors, and take you on romantic getaways. But it goes way beyond that. It comes down to everyday efforts to show they care. You will never have to question if they’re invested in the relationship because it will show through their actions. If your partner has stopped pursuing you and you’re the one breaking your back to keep it alive, then we’re sorry to tell you but you’re in a lopsided relationship.

2. You’re pushing for a label.

If someone wants to tie you down and make sure you’re not seeing anyone else, they will bend over backwards to make you their partner. But if you’re the only one pushing for a label, then your relationship is not balanced because you’re the only one that cares. There’s no easy way to say this, but your partner doesn’t care for you as much as you care for them.

3. You always put them first above all.

Sometimes you have to make sure your own needs are met to stay true to yourself. If you’re always doing what they want to do, like dropping your hobbies to spend time with them, neglecting your work projects because they want to go to the movies, or ditching your friends because they want to go out, then you’re in a lopsided relationship. If the whole relationship revolves around them, you care too much, and it shows.

4. You always initiate affection.

Some people don’t like PDAs and that’s okay, as long as they’re making moves on you in private. There should be a balance in who initiates affection. But if you’re always the first one to make a move, then we have bad news for you: you’re in a lopsided relationship.

5. You’re the first to reach out.

You haven’t heard from them in a few days, and instead of waiting for them to call you, you’re the one who calls first. They don’t even bother reaching out because they know you’ll give in and reach out to them instead. How do they know this? Because it’s happened before. Don’t you think you deserve better than this? Don’t you think you deserve to date someone who also gets in touch with you?

6. You settle for the bare minimum.

You care so much about them that you’re willing to settle for any scraps they give you. You know you deserve more but are happy with what they give you. You’ll probably never walk away from this situation even though you know deep down inside you should. Don’t you think it’s time for you to stop caring about them so much?

7. You ask more questions than they do.

You take interest in their day, what they ate for lunch, who they say after work, and what they did in the evening. But when it comes to returning the favor, they don’t even bother. If you feel like you’re the only one asking questions, it’s probably because you care more than they do.

8. You rearrange your schedule for them.

You used to be a workaholic, but now you barely work because you rearranged your schedule to accommodate theirs. You already know you’ll be taking off Monday and Tuesday because they’re off Monday and Tuesday. You no longer hang out with the guys or gals on Fridays because they insist you don’t to be with them. You don’t even visit your mom on Sundays lately. You literally drop everything for them.

There’s no worse feeling than being in a lopsided relationship. If you’re tired of investing your time and energy in someone who doesn’t give you what you deserve, then it’s time you contact our Irvine matchmakers and let us help you find someone worthy of your time and efforts.

If you’re ready to find a loving partner who puts in the same work as you, someone who respects and values you just like you do them, it’s time to let our expert matchmakers do the matching for you. To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!


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